Hi gorgeous mama,
I have been meaning to write this post for some time, but then another hit of inspiration comes and this gets put on the back burner.
But tonight is the night.
I want to share a technique, which I learnt from Dr Jane Nelson the creator Positive Discipline, to explain love to a 4 year old.
This is a beautiful and simple technique, and let me tell you it really works.
I did this exercise with my two children when we brought our baby boy home.
It really works better if your child is 4 years old or over.
My 4 year old got this straight away and his energy changed immediately.
My little girl who was only 2.5 at the time did not get it so much, so its been a bit tricky – but that is another post all together.
I have used the example of a mum, dad and three children as that is my family. You can change this in what ever way you need to make this suit your family unit.
I have written this as if you were speaking to your children.
So pick a quiet time, when your baby is sleeping. Get some candles – one for each member of the family.
Sit with your toddlers, and pick up the first candle.
As you light the candle, say “this light represents mummy and all her love”.
Then as you pick up the second candle say “and this candle represents daddy, and when I met daddy I gave him all my love” (as you light the second candle with the first),
and say “now daddy has all my love and I still have all my love”.
And then as you pick up the next candle, say “and this candle represents ‘Child 1’ (use your child’s name as appropriate of course), and when I had ‘Child 1’ I gave him all my love (as you light this candle with the first one)
and say “and ‘Child 1’ and daddy have all my love and I still have all my love”
And then as you pick up the next candle, say “and this candle represents ‘Child 2’ , and when I had ‘Child 2’ I gave her all my love (as you light this candle with the first one)
and say “and ‘Child 2’ , ‘Child 1’ and daddy have all my love and I still have all my love”
And then as you pick up the next candle, say “and this candle represents your baby brother/sister, and when I had him I gave him all my love (as you light this candle with the first one)
and say “and now, our baby, ‘Child 2’ , ‘Child 1’ and daddy, have all my love and I still have all my love”
Then as you put all of the candles together, say “because mummy has enough love for everyone, and look at all of this beautiful love and light in our family.”
Then big hugs and kisses all around and you’re done.
I hope you get the drift of this. Please let me know if you need anything clarified.
As always I would love to hear your thoughts on this post. Please leave me a comment below, and feel free to send this out to your Facebook and Twitter peeps if you liked it. Muchly appreciated. Let me know how you go explaining this to your toddlers
Love and gratitude
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